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On Gay Marriage

Here's an email I wrote to a non-Baha'i man wanting to marry another. He said he didn't see what the whole "permission" thing was about and wanted to know the score because his Baha'i partner wanted a wedding.

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Hi [REDACTED],

You won't get Baha'is to marry you. The closest you'll get is to throw in the only Baha'i vow in at whatever ceremony you have: "We all, verily, will abide by the will of God."

Re: permission -- Baha'is are about unity and getting permission from our parents to marry promotes family unity. I did so once (didn't get married after all) via a letter to my estranged mom we started talking again. Another reason could be that if your parents say no, maybe they're right --  don't forget that 50 percent of marriages fail in this nation. Or, maybe you need to talk to parents about their concerns more. Sometimes parents can be cruel and say "no" to hurt you and in…

Update and Thoughts On Sodomy

AdSense rejected me until I get more content and organize it, so work in progress.

I figured I'd post something on topic, too; I have been thinking how straight society has pretty much absolved itself (sans some Catholics) from being "guilty" of sodomy, which includes oral and anal sex, but homosexuals are somehow wrong for engaging in the same behavior. Perhaps this apparent dichotomy is because sex should only be between a married man and a woman according to them -- Baha'u'llah says the same so I might have to just get over this one. I don't know the specifics of what "kind" of sex is banned in the Faith, however. Anyone who knows such can feel free to comment.

Lightning

What do you think about eye contact? Do you get it powerfully only from the opposite sex? When I look in someone's eyes, sometimes I can feel/see a powerful connection regardless of their sexuality. Children must at least stare at you; they do it to me and I stare back and widen my eyes maniacally and they love it.

Eye connection is very powerful -- kids download info from their parents using it, according to Dr. Pat Romano-McGraw's It's Not Your Fault: How Healing Relationships Change Your Brain And Help Overcome A Painful Past -- I highly recommend read it if you haven't.

Anyhow, I call it "lightning," and I'm getting it with this guy; we stared at each other over the restaurant for a few seconds and I had to break so he wouldn't think I was in love with him. He has blue/green eyes (I asked which, he said "both, with some gold"), beautiful long lashes, and he's got a girlfriend and stepson in addition to being clearly straight.

I love w…